I promise you, no matter what it is, it isn't all your fault. Hello, my name is Derrick and I am a licensed psychotherapist with a specialization in men's issues. I know how hard it is for men because I am a man. And I know that men are struggling mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Therapy was not designed with men in mind. Some therapists refuse to admit this, but it is the truth. Therapy assumes that you have gone through your life allowed to express all of your emotions, but for men that isn't true. We are told from a young age that "real men" don't cry and are forced to bottle up our feelings. On top of that, we are conditioned to believe that our only value and worth is in what we can do for others and that the highest virtue we can attain is self-sacrifice. So it is no wonder that a large percentage of men suffer from anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and anger management issues.
It isn't misogynistic to say that society treats men badly. We experience all of the same problems that women do, but the difference is that society allows women to talk about it. I have worked with countless men on issues from ADHD, Anxiety, and Depression to Relationships, Divorce, and Maternal (single-mom) abuse, and each of those men described opening up to someone and having it used against them in the future. There are very few safe places in society for men to discuss what it's like to be a man.
When men do open up and express their feelings, they are often told "Go To Therapy", but even therapy can be potentially harmful to men. I have heard countless stories of men going to therapy and leaving feeling guilty, shamed, and blamed as the sole cause of their problems. Many of these men expressed this happening with female therapists. And although I do believe that there are excellent female therapists, there are some issues we face that they simply cannot understand. No matter how much education or research they do. The experience of being socialized as a man can only be understood by other men.
As a man, I have struggled. I know what it is like to feel lost and disconnected. Having gone through a divorce, I also know what it is like to reach out and look for help and be unable to find it.
My therapy approach is informed by my education but enriched through my experiences. I create an environment where you feel safe and comfortable and help you define your problem, set your goals, and give you actionable steps to get there. We will discuss what you have been through, in your language and with no corrections. We will identify what coping skills and strategies you have learned that are no longer helpful and we will create new ones so that you can do more than just survive.
I help men with a variety of issues including but not limited to dating and relationships, assertiveness, boundary setting, recovering from single-mother trauma, recovering from narcissistic abuse by women, body-image issues (yes the specific ones unique to males) drug addictions (especially pornography), marital dissatisfaction, job dissatisfaction, ADHD, anxiety, and depression.
As therapy has become more mainstream, many people are claiming to be able to help men with their issues. Some see an easy way to make a quick buck. This is why not only do I offer a free 15-minute consultation, but if you are a good fit I can provide you with financial assistance as well. I know how hard it is to reach out for help and how difficult it can be to get started. Click the button below to schedule your free consultation in only 3 clicks and I look forward to helping you on this journey.