My name is Derrick Javan Hoard, and I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, avid gamer, and adult survivor of childhood abuse and neglect.
The Situational Therapist is a character I created to publicly put words to the experience to help validate others who are unable to do so yet. The Situational Therapist is working to remove the stigma of experiencing childhood abuse.
Due to difference that popular culture now labels as nuerodivergence, I had a different "black experience" than most.
Fortunately, this gave me a perspective of the world that I bring fully to bear in helping my clients learn how to help themselves.
While I know, there are many reasons that individuals have barriers to change, one of the biggest is that they don't know their own story.
So many times, individuals are told who they are or what they were, or how they need to be by others. They lack a language to communicate with themselves because everyone else has been talking for them. I help my clients solve immediate crises in their lives, and then we move on to therapy that equips them with the skills to handle it themselves.
I believe that everyone who has an honest desire to change can succeed if given the correct language, the right tools, and the right influence.
Mental illness can be caused by and can be an expression of trauma.
By trauma, I simply mean the memory of an event that is processed in a way that leads to situations where we experience mental distress.
We will continue to experience distress in every single situation that we come to in life that is similar to ones from our past that we have not correctly handled. We will respond in the same way in those situations unless their is some intervention-either deliberately or through chance.
If we created a world to encompass the full expression of human experience, we wouldn't have to create labels to designate those that don't fit. And diagnoses such as these are important for individuals to be able to have access to resources.
I believe that I work for my clients and it is collaborative process.
We can also, ya know, laugh sometimes.
Love yourself first, trust yourself first, and the rest will be easy.
Good! That is why I do free consultations. I would want to interview my consultant too.