I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, avid-gamer, and adult survivor of childhood trauma consisting of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse by my primary caregivers across various dimensions of my life.
I struggle, just as survivors of abuse do, to put words to my experience.
I had a mother who beat me relentlessly and without warning and woke up the next day and apologized like it never happened. Spanking is abuse and should be treated as such.
The black church I grew up in was a real cult replete with nonsensical speech, loud displays of erratic behavior, and hidden sexual abuse. We need to adjust our definition of the word "cult".
I was also misdiagnosed with mental illness as a child and forced to take psychiatric medication when I did not need it.
These don't even begin to explain the extent of the trauma I experienced during the formative years of my life.
I am also very thankful for them because they afford me access to empathy that, "therapists" who have never known the pain of having their lights turned off when they were younger, simply cannot know and can't be taught.
I believe people can change and I believe it is the situations we get into with people that drive us crazy, not just people themselves.
Mental illness is caused by and is an expression of trauma.
The trauma of which is primarily inflicted on us in the formative years of our lives.
We replay this trauma in every single situation that we come to in life that is similar to ones from our past, and we will respond in the same way unless there is some intervention.
Mental illnesses such as ADHD and Autism spectrum disorders are also the result of society's obsession with reductionistic explanations of human behavior. The Situational Therapist stands with the neurodiversity movement and supports Autistic individuals speaking their truth about ABA therapy.
Therapy has become a parody of itself. Therapist's are so focused on "treating mental illness" that they forget how to "talk to a client".
I believe that I work for my clients and it is collaborative process.
We can also, ya know, laugh sometimes.
Love yourself first, trust yourself first, and the rest will be easy.
Good! That is why I do free consultations. I would want to interview my consultant too.