The neverending Argument

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Situational Couples Therapy


Covid-19 Statement

I have switched my practice to a fully online format. I use a secure encrypted peer to peer video conferencing service to ensure your confidentiality [not Zoom]. I have been doing teletherapy for the past five years, and know what it takes to establish good therapeutic rapport. You can also check out my youtube channel for more updates as well as an example of how therapy will look and sound. 

Who Am I?

My name is Derrick Javan Hoard and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist working out of Seattle, Washington.  You can click here to verify my licensure as well as click the button at the bottom of the page to be taken to my Psychology Today Profile.  I love helping couples learn to communicate effectively and stop fighting over stupid things.  

How To Schedule

You can call me directly at 318-732-7489 or email me at  You can also click the button below to schedule immediately. I give a free 30-minute initial consultation. That way you can see what therapy is like before you invest. I have two office locations to choose from 4511 Densmore Avenue North and 3301 Burke Avenue North. I look forward to hearing from you!

What is situational couples therapy?

I developed Situational Couple's Therapy through collaboration with couples in my private practice. It is based on solution-focused therapy and EFT. It is a brief type of therapy where success is based on the resolution of problem situations instead of more emotionally focused approaches based on "understanding" your partner better.  Understanding your partner is a by-product of effective communication which is taught in Situational Therapy. 

Can you give an example?

Imagine that you and your partner disagreed about which way the toilet paper roll should go, or whether you rinse the dishes before you put them in the dishwasher or not, anything that "shouldn't" matter but in the moment feels like it does.  My couples often refer to arguments like this as  "something stupid".  So imagine that you and your partner were arguing over "something stupid". 

To me, it isn't "something stupid".  Arguments over "the way things should be" are actually extremely important in maintaining a relationship with someone. As are arguments about "Who has the right to make a final decision?" Unfortunately, unless you have a system in place to talk about your relationship, you will never overtly ask these questions of each other. You will then have repetitive arguments, blowups, and wondering whether or not you've grown apart.  Anytime there is a situation where you and your partner argue about the same thing and yet it somehow seems the problem is getting worse, it is because the argument, in part, has something to do with your relationship.

How does therapy help?

The honest truth is that I can show you what you are actually fighting about. The problem isn't just how you communicate; although the pursuing and withdrawing dynamic can be devastating, it is also that "Message Sent isn't Message Received."  You don't have a system in place to work out disagreements reliably, identify miscommunications, and communicate understanding.  Well, you do, but that system is currently why you are seeking couples counseling in the first place. 

How much does it cost?

I offer financial scholarships where I will subsidize up to 33% of the cost of therapy for those in financially difficult situations. To qualify you must attend an initial consultation and verbally request a scholarship  My hourly rate is $200 per hour. I do not submit claims on your behalf, but I will take care of the paperwork for you to submit your own insurance claims.