Hi, my name is Derrick Javan Hoard and I am a licensed marriage and family therapist in Seattle, Washington. Most therapists specialize in specific disorders, I specialize in types of situations. Here is my Psychology Today profile.
First, I want to applaud you for doing the work to become an anti-racist and ally within the community. As someone who grew up in an evangelical Christian cult, I remember what it was like to harbor views that did not reflect equality for all expressions of consciousness. I maintain there were many views I would not have developed if I simply were able to ask questions.
I know that on this journey towards becoming an anti-racist, you have questions about the black experience. Questions that honestly, the black people in your immediate circles are tired of answering. You can't possibly imagine the continued racial trauma and harm you inflict on them with your seemingly innocuous questions.
"Tell me more about your black experience"- Can instantly send someone into a flashback of emotional trauma inflicted on them because they are black.
"Your question is a trigger of a time someone called them a-"
The problem is that you ask questions that your friends of color have answered over and over again. It is emotionally laborious and taxing on the individuals who want to be your friends. At the same time, as your friends, the people of color in your life want to answer your questions and so they are placed in an impossible situation. This is where anti-racism therapy and coaching comes in.
In my anti-racism therapy and coaching sessions, I use a two-pronged approach to identify your strengths as well as identify potential areas for growth.
As a therapist, I know racism is a knife that cuts both ways. Racial trauma affects us all, and my skills as a therapist will be invaluable in helping you heal. I will identify where you are on the racism/anti-racism continuum and we will come up with an action plan to address your specifics needs.
The coaching aspect involves answering your questions and providing you with the language necessary to get through difficult situations involving racial discussions. No question about my experience is off-limits, and while it cannot be extrapolated to the entire black culture, it will provide you with at least some insight into the difficulties that your friends of color face.
My hourly rate is $250 per hour. 30% of this service's proceeds go towards supporting local black-owned businesses, 30% goes towards hiring therapists of color and paying them well beyond a "living wage", and 40% goes toward providing low-cost and pro-bono therapy services to people of color in the service industry.
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This isn't racism, but it is triggering. That is why black people are upset.
No, she did not say the N-Word, but it sounded like it. The outrage was at the response.
"Karen" is not a racial slur, however, it is being used in the same way that racial slurs are used.